It’s a new year! And you know what that means: new year resolutions!
With that said, I admit I’m not crazy over the whole “new year new me” mantra. After all, nothing magically changes when a new year rings in. But I can understand the hope it brings; of wanting to make new changes, of starting on a clean slate, out with the past and in with new possibilities!
Which is easier said than done of course. Old habits take a lot more than a new year to change after all.
My little highlights of 2020
It’s also why rather than make new year resolutions, I spent time instead reflecting on how I fared in the past year. What were the highs and lows of 2020 and how I could improve further. 2020 being one of the most “unprecedented” years in recent history doesn’t make reflecting on this year any easier, as we can all agree in general that the year was a complete disaster.
If you’re one of those against toxic positivity, where we force ourselves to look on the bright side of things, more power to you because I completely understand. If you’re still hurting, or struggling, then trying to be more positive isn’t the solution you need at all.
But for me, I’m going to count whatever little blessings 2020 gave me in order to move forward. Despite the challenges, I felt like I laid out some important groundwork for me to move forward. Which includes:
- Cutting off antidepressants
- Lost some weight
- Kept working out
- Fixed (some of) my eating habits
- Started blogging
Which, in the grand scale of things, isn’t much I agree. I still have a long way to go. But I still feel like everything I am doing now is a WIP, and a new year doesn’t change that other than being a reminder that each new day I get is a fresh start itself. So I will keep doing my best, even in 2021!
New Year Resolutions to really think about
So to everyone getting excited about the new year and working on their new year resolutions, here’s some words I would like to share and you can take it as you will.
✔ To really make changes in your daily life, you will need to change your habits. So figure out what kind of person you are (I learnt I am an Obliger), and use that knowledge to fix or create new habits that work with you and not against you.
✔ Don’t go on a diet because the world expects you to. Don’t restrict yourself because you rate your self worth based on how much you weigh or how you look.
Instead, focus on what makes you a better and healthier person. Work on developing better habits, from eating better to keeping your space clean, working out and meditating to strengthen your body and mind, and utilise the right tools (like a weighing scale or a specific type of diet) to achieve what works for you.
✔ Failures are meant to be a lesson, not a decisive factor. Accept the failures and learn what you can to move forward. Sure, knowing what fails doesn’t give you a roadmap to success, but you can narrow it down by crossing it out and embarking on a new path, or you can take the same path but try a new approach to how you want to get there.
✔ It’s not just a new year, it’s a new (1 out of 365) day you’re getting. You don’t have to start at the right time, but you can most definitely start now.
May 2021 be a better and kinder year to all of us!